Lesbians and Sex
Wednesday, November 19th, 2008 | Author: andybolton

 

Dumping Lesbians for men!

Queen of Burlesque Dita Von Teese, who recently launched her new ‘Wonderbra’ collection, has insisted that she’s done having lesbian relationships and now prefers men.

The model has revealed that her experimental fling with a girl during her twenties made her realise that she preferred the opposite sex better.

“That was for a real brief period of my life, it was really like a month,” Contactmusic quoted her as saying.

“I realised quickly that I really prefer men. That was an experimental stage in my early twenties,” she added.

The 36-year-old claimed to be a heterosexual and has sworn against same-sex dating.

She said: “I just know that I really love men and the way I feel with a man.”

Courtesy: indiatimes.com

 

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TV showing more gays, lesbians

NEW YORK (AP) — Broadcast television will have 16 gay and bisexual regular characters in prime-time series this fall, more than double the seven of a year ago, a new study has found.

The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation said it was a positive sign of networks making their shows more representative, although more work needed to be done. These characters accounted for 2.6 percent of all the regular characters in TV series, up from 1.1 percent last year and 1.3 percent in 2006, according to the study, released Monday.

GLAAD President Neil Giuliano singled out Fox for having five such regular characters this fall, considering there were none a year earlier. The character Thirteen on “House” is bisexual, while the new “Do Not Disturb” has a gay man.

None of the 126 regular characters on CBS shows are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, GLAAD said, and only one recurring character — Brad on “Rules of Engagement — is gay.

ABC will have seven characters that are either gay men or bisexual women this fall, NBC will have three and the CW will have one, according to GLAAD.

A total of 19 recurring characters, those who appear only time to time, fit the category, GLAAD said. That’s up from 13 a year ago. Between regular and recurring characters, that’s the most GLAAD has counted during its 13 years of monitoring networks for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender representation.

The number of regular characters fitting the definition fell from 40 to 32 on mainstream cable networks, a count that doesn’t include the gay-oriented networks Logo and here!

There were no lesbians among the regular characters, according to GLAAD. But there are five bisexual women, including the characters of Callie Torres and Erica Hahn on ABC’s “Grey’s Anatomy.”

“As the networks gradually add characters from all backgrounds and all walks of life to prime-time programming, more and more Americans are seeing their LGBT friends and neighbors reflected on the small screen,” Giuliano said.


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Lesbian Health Initiative

 

The crowds who turn out Oct. 12 for the Atlanta Lesbian Health Initiative’s annual Fall Garden Party will get more than an afternoon of fun and fundraising. They will also be treated to the first glimpse of an online health assessment and networking tool that leaders of two of the city’s top lesbian organizations hope will revolutionize their thinking about not only physical health, but how to build healthy communities.

The web-based health survey was developed with help from volunteers with the CDC, and if successful, it could become a model for gay organizations around the country. It will allow participants — not limited just to lesbians, but with a lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender focus — to answer basic questions about themselves and then receive a personalized health assessment.

By providing their zip code, participants will also have the chance to link to social networking groups, and eventually find gay-friendly physicians in their own areas.

“The experience of health is intimately tied to social support networks,” said Linda Ellis, executive director of the Health Initiative. “We know that you can’t sustain health without support.”

NEW LESBIAN ‘ALLIANCE’

The link between online information and nearby social and support opportunities comes through a new venture between ALHI and Fourth Tuesday, which has provided networking for local lesbians for more than two decades.

At ALHI, “they have a health focus, while we have always been a social and networking group,” said Shirley Adams, who co-chairs Fourth Tuesday with Jo Giraudo. “To pull all of that together, we want to recognize that part of health is fun — it’s being connected to this wonderful world we are in.”

Dubbed an “alliance” by leaders of both groups, the relationship will allow the organizations to keep their individual identities, while sharing information, website links, and other resources.

More specifically, it means women who participate in ALHI’s online health assessment can be linked with Fourth Tuesday’s growing network of chapters “outside the Perimeter” — a new way of thinking for gay organizations that once assumed their audience was entirely in-town.

“Where we are heading is that when you call in and let us know that you or your partner have been diagnosed with something, we will be able to link you with a network of women who actually live in your area,” ALHI’s Ellis said. “It makes more sense than when you call from north of Atlanta needing a ride to the doctor, and me working from [our office in] Candler Park to try to do that.”

It also means that the more than 500 women who have already joined Fourth Tuesday’s outlying chapters, and the more than 1,000 members of their Yahoo group, will have a more organized way to access health information that speaks directly to them as lesbians.

“We feel that the mind and the spirit are enriched and healthier by having a support structure,” said Giraudo, the other Fourth Tuesday co-chair. “We want to help people get connected, which will help you through the good times and the bad times.”

BEYOND THE PERIMETER

The alliance between the Health Initiative and Fourth Tuesday officially got underway this month. With the help of a grant from the Lloyd Russell Foundation, Adams joined ALHI’s staff as the part-time ALHI-Fourth Tuesday transition coordinator. And on Sept. 15, Giraudo and Fourth Tuesday Northwest chapter leader Mary Helen Martin officially joined ALHI’s board of directors.

The decision to work together came as both organizations grappled with how to be more effective during a period of rapid change for lesbians and gay men in Atlanta.

At the same time that the internet has revolutionized how people find support and make connections, the area’s gay population has spread out from “inside the Perimeter” locations like Midtown and Decatur as people feel more comfortable outside the city.

“We knew that whatever we did next would have to involve a strong and more active web presence,” Ellis said. “We also realized that rather than try to create programs in our office and convince women to come there, what we wanted to do is look at how we can take our programming and support to where the community actually lives now.”

Fourth Tuesday leaders were having the same conversations on their own.

“We really were not using the internet well,” Adams said. “It was a great way to connect women, and it caught on so beautifully that we decided to strengthen our social network through the internet — to keep our in-town connections strong, as well as give women who live outside the Perimeter the same opportunities to get together.”

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Stopping same-sex unions protects no one
A recent Times Op-Ed article supporting Prop. 8 claims to advocate for children. In reality, denying equal marriage rights harms everyone.
By James Overturf
September 26, 2008
David Blankenhorn, who heads up a think tank in New York, writes in his Sept. 19 Times Op-Ed article that because marriage is historically a means to provide children with legitimacy, it must so always remain. I do not agree that this is the sole reason for the modern institution of marriage. Nonetheless, applying Blankenhorn’s argument further, should we not — in addition to eliminating the right to marry for gays and lesbians — also deny heterosexual couples who choose not to have children the right to wed? What about heterosexual couples who are past their childbearing years? Blankenhorn presents his self-identification as a liberal democrat as his credentials to make this argument. More likely, his argument is simply a smoke screen to strip gays and lesbians in California of their rights.

One can argue about the merits of children being raised in a gay or lesbian household as compared to those reared in a heterosexual household. However, it is an established fact that gays and lesbians are raising children, biological or adopted. About 27% of all same-sex couples identified in the 2000 U.S. Census have at least one child under 18 living with them. Do these children not deserve the protections that marriage would afford their families? Is it not better for these children to be living with married parents instead of two co-habitating adults? Isn’t society’s interest served by seeing more stable gay and lesbian families?

Eliminating the right to marry for gays and lesbians would not solve the problems surrounding the state of heterosexual marriage and children in the United States today. Currently, more than 22 million children — about one-third of all kids in the U.S. — do not live with two married parents. According to the Annie E. Casey Foundation, the percentage of children living in single-parent families in 2006 ranged from 18% in Utah to 45% in Mississippi. Over the last 30 years, there has been a decrease in the proportion of Americans who are married — and nearly 60% of new marriages will end in divorce.

The decline in marriage has been accompanied by an increase in children being born outside marriage. Increasing co-habitation — two people living together outside marriage — is a main reason in the rise of extramarital births. More than 4 million children lived in co-habitating couple households in 2003, according to the Annie E. Casey Foundation.

Blankenhorn goes on to say that children deserve to be raised by their biological fathers and mothers. In an ideal world, all children would be brought into the world by caring, responsible parents. Unfortunately, too many gays and lesbians such as my husband and myself are picking up the pieces left behind by irresponsible, neglectful and, much too often, abusive heterosexual parents. These children deserve better than the parents to whom they were born — and gay and lesbian parents are providing better homes. If Blankenhorn were truly concerned about the state of marriage and children in this country, he would support social policies that would really help protect children. He could also adopt one of the tens of thousands of children who languish in foster care waiting for new parents.

Blankenhorn says that he rejects homophobia. But his Op-Ed piece is just a smoke screen to support the continuation of the broader second-class status of gay and lesbian families. The biggest threat to our society is not my marriage or any other marriage between two loving, consenting adults. In fact, heterosexual couples are doing a pretty good job themselves of bringing down the institution of marriage.

Fully including gay and lesbian families into the social framework of American society can only strengthen the institution of marriage. As my grandmother wrote in a card congratulating my husband and me on our recent marriage, “Now you are all truly a family.”

James Overturf, an employee of the Los Angeles Unified School District, lives in Glendora with his husband and their two children.

 

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Wednesday, November 19th, 2008 | Author: andybolton

 

Not a Sexy Lesbian Topic

 

Too many people think of the short term aspects of being a lesbian, they forget how to develop it into a long term ’till death do us part’ relationship. Allow me to explain further.

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Should I tell my Husband I have Lesbian Tendencies?

 

I’ve been a lesbian for some time and had relationships outside my marriage, but should I encourage other lesbians to tell their husband.

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Wednesday, November 19th, 2008 | Author: andybolton

Lesbian Movies Vs Movies For Lesbians
By Dylan Rocks

As a lesbian woman it is increasingly frustrating to find a lesbian movie that is a movie featuring the lesbian lifestyle or one which features lesbians as it’s main theme.

It’s a Friday evening and you are planning a quiet night in with your partner. A good dinner and a movie reflecting your lifestyle is not too high an aspiration or at least it should not be.

But a visit to your local video rental or a quick search on the internet for lesbian movies unfortunately turns up a whole different type of movie. Not Movies for lesbians or movies about movies but adult material. Not exactly the plan

So why has the term lesbian movie become almost synonymous with the adult movie industry? Surely a lesbian movie is a movie about lesbian women and our lifestyle just like an Indian movie is about Indians and their lifestyle.

The problem actually may be partially contributed to by the gaping lack of good movies for lesbians in circulation. If you are lucky enough to visit a site that does list real lesbian movies i.e movies about the lesbian lifestyle, otherwise called ‘lesbian interest’ movies; you will find a short list of the same movies repeated over and over again.

This is not a reflection of how good these movies are, in fact the majority of the ones I have seen are low budget fare. No it is because that is all that is available in that market

It makes you wonder. If the 10% statistic is true and that means 10% of all women are lesbian; why is our lifestyle not more visible in the movie industry? Are there no lesbian movie makers or writers. Of course not. We are all too aware of the presence of lesbians in the performing arts.

Is there a lack of interest in these movies among the lesbian community. Again, I think not. The amount of discussions in the lesbian forums whenever a lesbian movie is released is just stupendous.

Or even when a character in a tv show has a minor lesbian encounter that is obliquely alluded to. The forums are buzzing, the blogs updated and lesbians everywhere rush to the tv show in a hope for more. And like a dangled carrot, the lesbian story is killed and there is a return to waiting for the next lesbian subplot in any show or film. No there definitely is a great market for lesbian interest movies.

So while we wait and hope to watch, I suppose it’s back to that lesbian flick that actually never mentions the term lesbian, ‘but it is a lesbian movie, really!’ for the 20th time. Or is it the 21st time?

Dylan Rocks is webmaster of Lesbian Movies, I mean Lesbian Interest Movies, Reviewed.

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Wednesday, November 19th, 2008 | Author: andybolton

 Dating Sites Especially for Lesbians
 By Sarah Freeland
 
 If you are a lesbian, then you know how hard it can be to find a great girlfriend. Maybe you haven’t been taken seriously by women in the past or maybe you aren’t quite out of the closet yet, but still want to date. Or maybe you have found the lesbian dating scene in your area limited or too wild. Whatever the case, you should consider dating sites for lesbians. This article will discuss the benefits of dating online as a woman seeking a woman and show you where to look.
 
 There are many reasons you may be interested in dating sites for lesbians. One of these reasons might be secrecy. In a society so inhospitable to gay individuals, it can be hard to make long lasting connections who someone of the same sex. Whether you are in the closet or out, you can benefit from the discreet nature of dating sites. Find a woman who is interested in you, without dealing with everyone else.
 
 Another reason you might choose to use dating sites for lesbians is to find a serious partner. Sometimes the woman seeking woman dating scene can be pretty rowdy, as younger women seek wild lesbian experiences. That’s fine for them, but if you are past all that, and are looking for a more serious relationship, you should consider dating online. Many dating sites for lesbians allow you to state your intent when you create a profile, so women know you are looking for something serious and long-term. This also allows you to search for women who are looking for something serious and weed out those who are not.
 
 Dating sites for lesbians are plentiful, and simply doing a search could return more than you were planning on. This might make choosing a site seem overwhelming. When you are looking for a good dating site, you have a few options. The first is mainstream sites. These popular dating sites almost always have a function where you can search for either gender. If you choose this option, you simply select your gender and the gender of the person you would like to meet. These are great for a number of reasons. One of the biggest reasons is the amount of traffic these sites get. Because they are so well-known, you will have more women to choose from than other sites.
 
 Your other option when it comes to dating sites for lesbians is sites created just for women seeking women. These sites are more personal than the larger dating sites and often, more discreet. Since these sites are often created by lesbians themselves, the experiences these sites offer are usually tailored to lesbians and the lesbian lifestyle a little more. These sites are also more likely to cost less to use.
 
 If you are a lesbian, then you know how hard it can be to find a great girlfriend. Maybe you haven’t been taken seriously by women in the past or maybe you aren’t quite out of the closet yet, but still want to date. Or maybe you have found the lesbian dating scene in your area limited or too wild. Whatever the case, you should consider dating sites for lesbians. This article will discuss the benefits of dating online as a woman seeking a woman and show you where to look.
 
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Wednesday, November 19th, 2008 | Author: andybolton

15 Things Gays and Lesbians Should Know About Signs of Infidelity
By Ruth Houston

Sooner or later most people in a committed relationship will have to deal with the issue of infidelity. Whether you suspect your partner of cheating on you or not, here are some important things you should know about signs of infidelity. Don’t take this information lightly. It may come in handy one day.

Below are 15 things about signs of infidelity that even surprise people who consider themselves knowledgeable about infidelity, cheating partners and affairs.

1. Telltale signs of infidelity first begin to appear while the infidelity is still in the planning stage. Spot the signs early enough and you may be able to squash the affair before it gets off the ground.

2. Every cheater, male or female, will display subtle signs of infidelity they’re not even aware of, and thus would never think to cover up. If you know what to look for, you’ll spot these subtle signs every time.

3. Most victims of infidelity either miss, or misinterpret the many subtle signs of infidelity that are staring them in the face. An awareness of what to look for will save you from the embarrassment of being the last to know.

4. You can find countless signs of infidelity using nothing more than your eyes, your ears and your personal knowledge of your partner. Knowing what to look for is the key. You don’t have to hire a private investigator or invest in fancy surveillance equipment.

5. The signs of infidelity will vary with each individual. No two cheaters will display exactly the same cheating signs. The telltale signs you find will depend on your knowledge of what to look for, and how well you know your mate.

6. Cheaters of both sexes are usually quite adept at hiding the obvious or most widely known telltale signs. ( the so-called top 10 signs of infidelity) It’s the subtle signs of infidelity, the ones most people overlook, that will expose the cheater every time.

7. Certain signs of infidelity can help you determine the identity of your partner’s new lover. Again, knowing what to look for is the key.

8. There are 21 major categories of infidelity signs, each comprised of from 19 to 92 specific telltale signs. For a detailed report describing these 21 categories, e-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with “21 categories-glb” in the subject line.

9. If your partner is really cheating, you will find clusters of telltale signs from several of the above mentioned 21 categories all at once. There will be far more than just a few cheating signs.

10. Where there’s one telltale sign, there are always dozens of corroborating signs of infidelity just waiting to be found. No cheater can cover up every single sign.

11. The sooner you spot the signs of infidelity, the better your chances are of saving your relationship. If you value your relationship, you can’t afford to be the last to know.

12. Most of the signs of infidelity apply to both cheating women and cheating men.

13. The future of your relationship will often depend on your ability to spot the telltale signs of infidelity in time. Since the signs appear early on, don’t wait to be the last to know. Find out before it’s too late.

14. Signs of infidelity can give you important details about the affair — what kind of affair it is, what stage the affair is in, the identity of your partner’s new lover, when, where or how often they meet, how much of a threat the affair poses to your relationship, and more. Use this knowledge to your advantage.

15. If you’re familiar with the signs of infidelity and know what kinds of things to look for, you can find telltale signs that even a private investigator is unlikely to find.

Protect Your Relationship

You can safeguard your relationship by familiarizing yourself with the signs of infidelity. Not just the obvious signs, but the subtle signs, as well. It can’t be emphasized strongly enough that knowing what to look for is the key. If you don’t know what to look for, or misinterpret the signs you find, by the time you find out what’s going on, it may be too late.

Know What to Look For

A good infidelity reference book should be a permanent part of your personal library. Of the many infidelity books on the market, Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs is the only one that lists practically every known sign of infidelity. Written by the infidelity expert who founded InfidelityAdvice.com, this book even includes the subtle signs that most people usually overlook.

FREE Information That Will Come in Handy One Day

Whether you suspect your partner of cheating or not, a knowledge of what signs to look for, coupled with the 15 facts above, may be instrumental in helping you save your relationship one day. Educate yourself about the signs of infidelity and you’ll never have to suffer the humiliation or heartbreak of being the last to know. For a FREE tip sheet describing the 21 categories of infidelity signs mentioned in points 8 and 9 above, e-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with “21 categories-glb” in the subject line

About Ruth Houston:

Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of “Is He Cheating on You?-829 Telltale Signs”. Frequently called on by the media to comment on popular infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times and numerous others, and has been a guest on The Today Show, CNN, Fox News, NBC News, and over 320 radio and TV shows worldwide. For more information about infidelity, cheating partners, affairs, or Is He Cheating on You?, visit InfidelityAdvice.com or Ruth Houston’s blog at infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com To interview Ruth Houston, call 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com

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Wednesday, November 19th, 2008 | Author: andybolton

Lipstick Lesbians
By Kate Tan

Does it take one lesbian to spot another?

Not necessarily.

Once, I turned up for a lesbian party at a local club that claimed to have a waiver of cover charge for lesbians. Unfortunately, the door butch couldn’t scan the lesbian in me and I had to pay my way in. What made it more unfortunate was that 3 other girl friends whom I’d asked along with me had to pay their way in as well. Needless to say, we never went back to the party again.

Another time, I went to a lesbian forum alone and a girl asked me this, “What’s a straight girl like you doing at a lesbian event?”

Even under such obvious and blatant circumstances, a lesbian can actually be mistaken or suspected to be straight.

Such encounters are not uncommon (and not exclusive) to lipstick lesbians.

Lipstick lesbians

To grab a definition from the Urban Dictionary, lipstick lesbians refer to feminine lesbians who are attracted to other feminine women.

From the same dictionary there is another definition, which I really like, that says:

lipstick lesbian = “The sexiest type of woman alive. A feminine lesbian.”

The Lesbian Look?

Contrary to popular belief, there really isn’t a standard lesbian look.

Lesbians come in all shapes and sizes, wearing all kinds of bracelets, shoes, and hair.

Some of the stereotype associations with lesbians include short hair, spiky gelled hair, mullet, purple wristbands, tattoos, rainbow tees… and the list goes on.

If one’s lesbian spotting skill is only based on judging another’s appearance, it is time to throw away that gaydar and acquire a new one. With a gaydar like that, you can score a lot of hits and also a lot of misses.

A straight woman can walk around with short spiky hair, dressed in a punky style and wear a purple wristband.

Likewise, a lesbian can also sashay around looking like a straight Barbie.

Nobody needs to compromise on how they want to look just to suit other people’s expectations.

Lesbian Spotting

Lesbian spotting is an important survival skill to acquire because it helps us to suss out who our potential partners are.

After all, to be able to date a girl you must be able to spot the girl who will likely go on a date with you in the first place.

Lipstick lesbians need to develop keen lesbian spotting skills that are at least a notch above the basic level of gaydar because of their unobvious appearance and their search of lesbians with unobvious lesbian appearances.

Of course, there are always mass lesbian parties where lipstick lesbians can get to meet other lipstick lesbians through trial and error. However, this can be a case of finding Wally in a busy picture full of people.

Bottom line is:

Develop a keen set of lesbian spotting skills.

It will empower you and make it inconsequential where you are: lesbian setting or non-lesbian setting.

You can literally go anywhere to get your lipstick lesbian other half.

The world is your (lesbian) oyster!

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